Have you ever read a romance novel? The basic structure is basically the same in all of them: they meet cute, there is an issue that almost tears them apart, and they live happily ever after. But have you ever noticed that the issue that often tears them apart is poor communication? Assumptions get made, someone from outside the relationship tells someone something that is not accurate, and misunderstandings abound.

So often, the answer to these issues is to improve communication. The same answer is needed in real relationships. Do not make an assumption about your partner. Check it out. You might be correct, but also just as easily may be wrong! So, ask questions! If something was said that isn’t very clear, clarify! Ask more questions, but not in an accusatory manner. Be lovingly curious. If someone outside the relationship tells you something, explore. See where and what the truth is. Notice if there is any agenda for the person telling you.

As I reflect on this, I realize that the essence of healthy communication is to minimize drama. While this may result in shorter, less eventful stories, it paves the way for more fulfilling relationships: they meet in a delightful way, they communicate healthily and build a strong bond, they navigate life’s challenges together, and they find contentment in their journey, not just the destination.

Indeed, the process of improving communication and building healthier relationships can be a rewarding and fulfilling journey. So, let’s embrace it with optimism and enjoy the ride!